Desire is the only way to effect change

I have been trying to put into words what I go through when I am trying to solve a personal performance roadblock, and it came to me that most roadblocks while personally imposed are also personally removed. So let's go back a bit to understand what is meant by this statement.

 

First the process of human progress comes from the one source, and one source only:

 

DESIRE

 

You will only change your lot in life if you have the desire to do so. Nothing complicated, nothing mystical. If you are comfortable with your lot in life, you will not change; if you don't feel motivated to change, nothing will happen.

 

Just being dissatisfied with your life is NOT enough to effect change. Most people are dissatisfied with their lives as the renowned American philosopher and naturalist Henry David Thoreau once mused in his essay called Economy:

 

"The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation. What is called resignation is confirmed desperation..."

Without the desire to change, life continues as a series of "repeating yesterdays." When you come to the end of your life, will you look back and see a never wavering line of yesterdays, or will you see  that you took some chances and made some changes to alter your then unknown future?

 

Unmotivated, comfortable people don't change. History is replete with stories of this premise. A country stops growing and progressing when its people become comfortable with their lot in life. Has your life become comfortable, really not too bad, or just not bad enough to require change.

 

In the end, its the desire to change that will force the issue.

 

Revelations come when needed to those receptive

Revelations come when you are:

1. Relaxed
2. Alone (most often)
3. Mentally receptive
4. Needy (in problem solving mode)

 

These characteristics hit me usually when I get up in the early morning and am alone in my office area. This is something you need to consider having: an area that you can inhabit that contributes to your being able to have revelations. Revelations can be missed when personal distractions or "personal noise" keeps the creative insights hidden from your introspection. You must be ready to receive the revelations or they will be missed.

 

If your life is too busy or crowded and you don't like what is going on in your life, then you NEED some QUIET TIME! There is no way around it. The TV persona of the Danny DeVito's character in the comedy film "Other's People Money" running around being active except when sleeping is a misnomer. You have to be quiet to hear your inner revelations, you have to be receptive, you have to be ready for the insights.

 

Find a place, make a time, and do it regularly: every day, or every week. Do it today!

 

The renowned American philosopher and naturalist Henry David Thoreau once stated about finding a quiet place to ponder his lot in life and ability to live what he called life:

 

"I went to the woods because I wished to live deliberately, to front only the essential facts of life, and see if I could not learn what it had to teach, and not, when I came to die, discover that I had not lived. I did not wish to live what was not life, living is so dear; nor did I wish to practice resignation..."

 

 

First Step: the Past doesn't matter, mind does.

Let's begin...

First, nothing that has gone on in your past or what is going on in your present defines your future. Even if you have done something that has resulted in the loss of personal freedom (yes, prison), your future is unwritten, unknown.

This means that your future can be heavily determined by your frame of mind about what is possible and what is not: your own imposed limitations. If you believe that you can't do this or can't do that or can't be this or that, then most likely your brain specifically your subconscious will ensure that you are not proven wrong.

In other words, you become your own worst roadblock by believing that you can't do or be something. This is why what parents tell their children when they are young has such an impact on their future self-image. The FBI BAU (Behavioral Analysis Unit) which a part of the NCAVC (National Center for the Analysis of Violent Crime) has empirical evidence that many violent offenders were made so by the words or deeds impacted on them by their parents.

The great thing about humans is that we are not "locked into" any predetermined mind set or behavior. We all can change our thinking and thereby change what our minds focus on minute by minute. Vietnam POWs talk about the only thing they had during years of imprisonment was their ability to think, reason, and remember. Many say it was this ability that prevented their captors from breaking their wills.

The mind is beginning, the source, and the end of all human realization; our daily perspective on life is based on how we think the world is, not what it may be in reality. This is both good and bad since it can provide a positive or negative impact on our lives.

So, the first step is to realize that it our own mental processes that hold the key to our future success or failures.

Welcome to You Can Be Fixed!

Welcome to myh new blog!

In this blog we will discover how you can discover your own true potential, deal with personal limitations, and most importantly, learn how to fix what you feel are you most pressing problems in areas of personal growth, professional aspirations, self-image, and relationships.

Having had the experiences of several lifetimes in my over 50 years; having made and lost several fortunes and made them back again; having dealt with such life changing experiences of personal danger, closeness to death, loved ones with terminal medical diagnoses, crises of faith and ethics, and so many others, I can help you understand how you own imposed limitations are the most limiting of all.

What you think are your limits is what your mind will impose on you.

How you perceive your life is exactly how it will ultimately turn out.

What you see as your "lot in life" is the goal your subconscious will work on to make come true.

Personal limitations are those invisible barriers that we place upon ourselves without the help of anyone or anything else. They are the handcuffs that prevent us from obtaining our true potential. They are what we devise to rob us of our success and future achievements.

The positive note in this is that while personal limitations are self-imposed, they are also self-eliminated. Only we can rid ourselves of their power since it is our own mind that gives them life and substance.

Join me in a journey of self-discovery. Come back often for your dose of "personal espresso!"

Final note: this blog is moderated since blog spam is increasing, and many people have not learned out to deal with their anger and no sense in subjecting my readers to their inappropriate slurs and slangs. Please feel free to comment and I will post most of them without editing, but if language or comments are hate-filled, they will be modified for sake of civility.

Welcome.